Teaching the Young How to Sail
Sorry to hear about the bad (capsizing) experience, Scott. I too bought my Capri 14.2 to "teach my boys how to sail." At the time they were four and one (O.K., so it was a little early, but I got our 14.2 for a GREAT deal from our neighbors), so my wife made me sell it again or risk have her selling our Jet Ski (an "either or" proposition). After selling it to friends with older kids, I was able to buy it back again last spring (3 years later) once they bought a pontoon boat and couldn't see using the Capri much anymore (plus their kids were older). This time I was in a better position. Now that my boys were eight and five, they were much more ready for the boat. My eight year old loves it, but my five year old still prefers the Sea Ray (call it a "need for speed"). I really want to encourage my eight year old to take the helm (tiller) more often, but am leery about turning him lose with both the tiller and the main primarily for fear of going over. I have yet to get her on her side in all the times we have been out (even in stiff winds), but I ony credit that to past sailing experience and the fact that I never sail without the main sheet in one hand and the tiller in the other (your "crew" needs to learn how to work the jib for you). Also, as you pointed out, ALWAYS inform everyone of when you are going to tack/jibe so that they can get prepared and don't execute until you get a "thumbs up" (or equivalent) from your crew. I'm not racing her (yet), so I am not worried about "coming about smartly."
All that being said, however, I am considering getting my eight (turns nine tomorrow) year old into an Optimist or Sunfish for the next two to three years until he really gets the feel of sailing himself and feels he is ready for the Capri. The chances of going over in either of those two boats is not very great, he can sail them single-handedly, and heck, on a hot summer day, going over in the Sunfish can actually be fun because before you can even think about it, you stand on the daggerboard, right her, and you're on your way again. I really don't want a younger child to roll the Capri and then have to figure out both how to get it righted and (sometimes even more difficult) how to get back in the boat. We have a couple of local parks/lakes within 12 miles of us where you can rent a Sunfish for $10/hour (Raleigh, NC). For that little, I take both of them out here and there for an hour or two and let them knock themselves out with the smaller boat. Just a thought. The smaller boat might not be as intimidating (to a six-year old) as the Capri.